There are benefits and disadvantages when there are more than one at home. When you want to have children, do you ask yourself how many you want? If so, how do you know when to have each one? It is normal for parents to want to expand their family size. The more the marrier.
Age Gap Situation
It might depend on the personality of each child you have.
Are they independent and ready to help with the newest member or are they still dependent and need more personal time?
I think the idea has to do with how much time and effort the parents are willing to spend with each baby.
Do they have the ability to distrubute enough attention and love to all the family members?
Close Age Gap
Choosing to have siblings help children entertain each other, giving parents more time for themselves.
When they are close in age, the first child who doesn’t get the parent for long to their self might not notice the lack of attention. The close gap between children will most likely have them experience the same things together and build a stronger bond.
Far Age Gap
But if parents decise to have a wider gap, the mother will have more time to heal and rest after giving birth.
There won’t be double trouble and so much work if you don’t have to worry about more than one baby at a time.
You can remember and compare expereinces with how to avoid mistakes with your first baby better now that you are confident in the process over time.
Age Gap Disadvantages
- 1- Siblings might get jelous, and might not like dividing attention to the newborn. The first child might want to act like a baby again, watching everyone awe and admire someone else.
- 2- The difference in opinions and perspectives due to age gap difference might lead to daily compromises and adjustments. Bedtime, for example, between younger and older children varies. One child will want an activity that the younger sibling still can’t do. Parents will need to figure out how to accomodate the different needs for each child.
- 3- If you decide to have a close age gap, your body might still be tired after the previous pregnancy and birth. Not to mention the double trouble of taking care of two babies at the same time.
- 4- If you decide to have a wide age gap, the more a woman ages the quality and number of eggs she produces decreases, so the process might not be as easy. You will need to also check and restock your baby equipment to make sure they can still be used.
My Opinion
In my opinion, if parents know they are able to provide and care for their child, then I see no reason why they shouldn’t be happy with more children. I don’t think there is a rule or an ideal age gap between siblings.
I am the eldest sibling among four.
There is a five year gap between my sister and I.
Then a ten year gap between my brother and I.
Between my second sister and I is a thirteen year gap .
I get along with everyone and I think we each share different happy memories regarding our experiences.
I love you all btw 🙂
